Do you have a daily joy?
Something that gives you the giggles, something that catches your eye and induces this radiant, wonder-like feeling?
Take a moment to pause and remember: Think back to when you were a kid and immerse yourself in the laughter of jumping amidst hundreds of bubbles you blew with your friends, or when you spiked that colorful beach ball so high up to the clouds, or when you were driving through the tail-end of a rainstorm and looked up to see the most magnificent rainbow.
That is joy.
While making my weekly sunset drive from DC to Charlottesville after a grad school weekend, I was introduced to the concept of the study of joy through a podcast. Based on Ingrid Fetell Lee’s research, I learned why we are so drawn to circular objects like beach balls and bubbles (since spheres are “safe shapes”), and why we like collections of tiny things so much (since the sum of parts is greater than the whole).
Have you ever seen or cuddled in a pile of puppies or kittens? Or run through a field of flowers?
That is joy.
And here is where joy is different from the oft-sought-after “happiness.” The podcast states that while many chase happiness, it is a long-term and often elusive concept. Joy, on the other hand, is tiny and immediate. It has nothing to do with acquiring things, or traveling to exotic places, or any other grandiose ideas, since joy is the act of noticing the here and now. It is simply being awake and open to letting the quotidian world amaze you.
For example, as I’m typing this at my favorite coffee shop, I just noticed the barista is wearing the same exact socks as I am! Why this is such a joy for me is because I chose those socks purposefully this morning, and because the barista and I had a lovely conversation when I was ordering my coffee earlier. Now, our worlds intersected once more with our shared affinity for a certain kind of sock, and that, to me, is joy. As soon as I noticed this little serendipity, I smiled deeply to myself.
So why should we care about joy?
Joy is additive, which means that the more of it you have in your life, the more it compounds and the more joyful you feel. I tried this on myself: after I listened to the podcast, I actually went looking for joy during my mundane drive. For example, I noticed how the drab winter tree branches made a curious hot-air-balloon shape against the orange sunset sky, or how the lights of the incoming traffic looked like a glowing yellow river in the distance. Keep in mind that this is a
These teeny-tiny details of everyday life made me smile, which spread positive emotion, which made me happier, and which is also backed by science.
That night after I got home, I took a second to observe the droplets of water on my steamy bathroom mirror and follow their rivulets down the glass, and seeing myself in the reflection, wondered why I didn’t look for joy more often.
There, I learned that, just like daily practices and mediation, looking for joy makes one more prone to finding it, and that in turns adds a dollop of color to an otherwise busy, hectic life. It is the sheer benefit of noticing that helps me to slow down and revel in just how joyous a day–and lifetime–can be.
So, what is your daily joy?
It really is right there if you stop and pay attention.
Holly Heilberg
March 12, 2019 10:46 AMThis is so incredibly beautiful! Your writing is so visual and mesmerizing. Thank you for joyfully welcoming my day❤️
Katya
March 16, 2019 8:40 AMThank you for your kind words, Holly! Made me smile 🙂
Genna
March 12, 2019 11:30 AMLove this to see that your driving experience is what I have experienced even though the drive is an hour each way! Thank you for this awareness that happy and joy are different. More food for thought! Thanks for sharing, Katya! Looking forward to more…
Katya
March 16, 2019 8:42 AMOh that’s wonderful that do this too, Genna! For all that driving in NOVA, it takes extra attention to find joy 😉 And yes, more to come!
Victoria
March 12, 2019 12:21 PMThank you so much – this really resonated with me as I have recently worked on being more present and aware of my surroundings, and have realized how much joy the simplest of things can bring.
To name a few: the mountain view out my bedroom window, singing my little heart out on the way to work, the smiles on my kids’ faces as they walk into my classroom, and colors.. I am always drawn to bright colors- such as the orange and pink bulletin walls in my classroom. I always have fun getting dressed in the morning and picking colors that suit my mood or what energy I want to bring to that day.
Katya
March 16, 2019 8:44 AMYes, girl, YES! +1 for singing your heart out–let’s do a duet next time we’re next to each other on the road :). I’m so glad to hear that it resonated; keep spreading your own rainbow of joy!
Param
March 12, 2019 12:43 PMThank you for re-awakening us all to the possibility of finding joy anywhere and everywhere. I loved reading this article and the article in itself rekindled great joy in my day! Very nicely written, very inspiring! I read a book titled “Joy” by Osho that changed my life forever! The funny thing is that my son tells everybody that hi (my son’s) life changed the day his dad read the book. I would strongly recommend the book that altered my paradigm so powerfully and enabled me to start enjoying my life. Osho left behind a legacy of over 2000 books on different topics-brilliant, light hearted and transformative!
Katya
March 16, 2019 8:47 AMParam, did you know I got into reading Osho after your lecture almost two years ago? I want to thank you for that. I’m adding “Joy” to my reading list! And it sounds like your son was such a huge influence for change for you–stemming from the story you shared in LC and here. Cheers to awareness and changing for the better!
Tojo Thatchenkery
March 12, 2019 2:45 PMLovely thoughts, Katya!
Katya
March 16, 2019 8:48 AMThank you, Tojo!
George Gorham Garrett
March 12, 2019 6:20 PMExcellent article. What we set our minds to look for causes our mental filters to unconsciously bring more of it to our attention. Also, your post proves again my theory of STAC.
Katya
March 16, 2019 8:49 AMPrecisely; great point about those mental filters. And would you clue me in to your theory of STAC? I’m so curious!
Steve Gaines
March 13, 2019 9:53 AMKatya, what’s inspiring is sensing the joy that emanates from your words in a subtle, yet appreciable way – like radiant heat in a chilled room at dawn. I remember a time in my 20s when writing was my own little kernel of joy. Often spilling out just at a moment when joy itself was otherwise lacking.
Stick with this! Bring such relevant thoughts forward into words. As once noted by my hero, F. Scott Fitzgerald: “You don’t write because you want to say something, you write because you have something to say.”
Cheers!
Katya
March 16, 2019 8:52 AMSteve, your words make me smile so much. That’s exactly the feeling–spilling out and words are the containers. Or the waterfall 🙂
And ohhh, I needed to hear that quote; totally bolsters my day and how I think about writing. Thank you so much for your kindness!
Sandra DeAngelo
March 13, 2019 9:08 PMWhat a great blog! Thank you for sharing!
Katya
March 16, 2019 8:53 AMThank you, Sandi! I guess all that writing for the Lewin newspaper paid off 😉
Dr. Selby
March 14, 2019 3:30 PMAppropriately enough, this article brought me a tremendous amount of joy. 🙂 I was unaware of the difference between happiness and joy, and now I will attempt to find some instances of it in my daily routine. Thank you, Katya!
Katya
March 21, 2019 1:20 PMHooray!!! So thrilled to hear that, Jack! Thanks for sharing your journey, too 🙂
Jasleen S
March 18, 2019 9:55 PMThis is amazing, Katya. For someone who hates reading, I couldn’t stop. Really captures you from start to finish
Katya
March 21, 2019 1:21 PMThank you my love!!! So appreciate that <3
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